Ready to ...
finally leave survival mode and start thriving on your own terms?
Are you wanting more from motherhood and are no longer willing to settle?
Do you want to break free from the overwhelm and unnecessary mum guilt once and for all?
Are you ready to finally take care of you the way you take care of your family?
I'm going to take a wild guess and say that if you are here that it's been a long time coming ...
So, firstly let me congratulate you for making this huge step!
You’ve probably been so caught up in the crazy whirlwind of family life, that you haven’t had the chance to be still and reflect on you and your experiences as a mother.
Up until now the unparalleled love for your family may have compromised your own needs, but it’s no longer tenable to ignore or deny the increasing feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion and frustration you are battling against.
Let's be real: modern motherhood ain't easy. Yet, despite knowing this, we are often our own worst critics as we buck up against unrealistic and contradictory expectations.
A recent survey found that 94% of mums feel parenting-related guilt on a regular basis. A straggering but unsurprising statistic.
(BabyCentre, 2021)
Sure, for a while you embodied the role of the selfless, sacrificing and maybe even silent mother - many of us have. But I bet you never really bought that BS narrative about scarcity and sacrifice; a tale that is projected all too often on us mothers.
You are at a place where “either/or” is no longer an option for you. You are looking for a “both/and” approach to life.
The beautiful paradoxical balancing act of life and motherhood means it is not always possible to “have it all”. But equally, you should know that there is still space for you to:
Be a nurturing mum AND nurture your own dream/ career/business
Be busy AND find better balance
Love selflessly AND practice self love
Invest in yourself AND invest in your family
Rest AND and go for it
But how do you get there?
Well, you know surface level stuff ain’t gonna cut it… slapping a plaster over the top is only going to add to your problems long term.
No, you’re here to dive deeper, to go inwards and work from the inside out.
To start a revolution from within.
Here Are Four Reasons -
Why Most Mums Find Themselves Trapped In The Cycle Of Sacrifice and Scarcity - And How To Free Yourself From This
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Your ‘old life’ doesn’t fit anymore but if you’re honest, your new life isn’t quite what you thought it would be either
Have you ever caught yourself wondering:
“Why does {x} no longer feel as important to me?”
“Where do I fit into all of this?”
Or even “what do I even like anymore?”
Motherhood has got you swept up in such a whirlwind that you feel unable to land, or find your footing.
And it’s no wonder-- Motherhood requires you to tend to everyone else. The idea of prioritising yourself is a novelty at best, and an undeserved luxury at worst.
You are so busy wearing multiple hats, and spinning multiple plates that it only adds to feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion and frustration. This is motherhood on a daily basis.
No wonder sometimes you find yourself missing your old life, and the old you.
Gosh, she was quite something wasn't she? Bold, brave and full of life.
But in truth, you would never swap your current life for your past existence. And we all know we often look back with rose tinted glasses. But equally you know you are made for more.
It’s time to stop carting around what no longer serves you. It is time to rediscover your essence and
and starts with merging the "old" and "new" you.
You have permission to create a more fulfilling life and enriching motherhood.
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You are left feeling restricted or paralyzed by guilt every time you try and make a positive change
Mum guilt can be crippling and cruel can’t it?
Thing is, it’s something the majority of us mums buck up against on a regular basis.
You find yourself worrying about not being a “good enough” mum so much that it not only ruins the day to day experience with your children, but it overshadows moments of genuine joy and connection.
Made a mistake? Well, here comes a barrage of self-criticism, shame and inability to forgive yourself.
Finally pursuing something solely for you? Cue the derailing guilt once again that has you stuck in your head, rather than being free to get fully stuck in.
And we’ve not even talked about the by-product of mums guilt… hello resentment and anger.
For many of us, this cycle runs in a loop.
Thing is, as mother’s we are constantly up against unrealistic and contradictory expectations and standards that would make anyone’s head spin. Leaving us feeling understandably confused, conflicted and incessantly critiqued.
No wonder we feel so “guilty” all the time- the game is rigged!
It’s time to take back control of your life and finally set yourself free from playing the game that you were never gonna win in the first place.
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You understand the need to practice self care, and indulge every now and then, yet you are often left wondering was it even worth it?
Instead of offering you some well needed solace, self care has started to feel more like a burden, another thing you are failing at, or worse-something out of reach.
But that’s no surprise, as modern mothers we are bombarded with the narrative that the best mothers are the ones who have all of their shit together, all of the time.
One quick glance on your phone and you are swimming in a sea of perfectly curated lives; mothers managing a demanding career, picture perfect homes, happy and beautifully dressed children- and still having time to practice self care in an instagrammable outfit at a gorgeous location.
Social media can perpetuate a narrative that simple solutions can solve complex problems, and whilst that might relieve some pressure for a brief moment, without setting the right foundations you’ll find little sustained nourishment from those “me time” moments.
Because after all, wherever you go, there you are.
It’s time to set up your self care for success and work from the inside out. Arming you with the emotional and practical toolkit to get the most out of what you want.
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You’ve been desperately seeking the elusive “motherhood manual”, but deep down crave the freedom to carve your own path
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of chasing the formula for a perfect motherhood, but being led down this garden path ultimately prevents you from accessing what is truly possible for you, and your family.
Really, you admire the mums who do things their way and on their terms.
The ones who have broken free from the perfectionism trap, freeing them to create a life and motherhood that is shaped around what lights them up and keeps them ticking.
But getting there can feel like a mystery, thanks to standard content around motherhood remaining rather fluffy and lacking substance. That being said, I’m not here to give you a step by step prescriptive process in achieving a more fulfilling life and motherhood. Spoiler alert: there is no such thing.
I am here to help you carve your own path.
Which is why I am so excited to tell you more about my 1:1 offer, but first let me introduce myself ...
Hey, I'm Rebecca
I am not ashamed to say I had a challenging start to motherhood, which for me looked like juggling a demanding career that no longer worked for me/my family, and caring for a child with emerging needs.
My experience often left me feeling at odds with my own life, being caught up in a cycle of depletion, worry/frustration and guilt and feeling at a loss with how to create positive change.
So to say I get it, would be an understatement - I’ve truly been where you are.
After reaching my limit I decided enough was enough. I embarked on an empowering journey of self discovery, which saw me finally prioritising myself and investing in building a life I love.
However, this mission to support mums to create fulfilling lives actually started way before I became a Mum myself.
For nearly a decade I worked as a children and families social worker, and supported hundreds of families from all different backgrounds and circumstances to make positive change out of challenging times.
So as I’m sure you can imagine- this means I really have seen it all.
Which brings me to my superpower- to support you to feel safe enough to be honest, and empowered enough to make radical change.
If you are a mum who can’t ignore that niggling voice anymore, then let’s work together to create the life that you want and deserve for both you, and your family.
Sound good? Then why not hear what some of my clients have to say…
Rebecca is a fantastic coach and working with her was so easy. I came in a bit lost and struggling with my new identity as a mother...
I was surprised how many things I have uncovered about myself through the process - and this comes from someone who has a lot of experience through therapy/counselling.
If you're looking to understand yourself better and work towards new goals (in motherhood or beyond), Rebecca is the right person for you." -Lara
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Alex Gayle
Finally ready to ...
carve out a life and motherhood you are proud of?
Here's how I'll help you get there:
1:1 COACHING
Evolve
PAYMENT PLANS AVAILABLE
6 x Coaching Sessions
Including 2 x 1.5 Hour Intensives
WhatsApp Coaching Support
Lifetime Access To Resource Library
Full Investment: £747
Payment Plans Available
1:1 COACHING
Transform
PAYMENT PLANS AVAILABLE
12 x Coaching Sessions
Including 3 x 1.5 Hour Intensives
WhatsApp Coaching Support
Lifetime Access To Resource Library
Full Investment: £1247
Payment Plans Available
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Life feels hectic right now, perhaps I should wait until my family life feels more managable?Truth is, there may NEVER be the perfect time to invest in yourself. A key question to ask yourself is where do you want to be 6 months from now? Do you want to be exactly where you are now, or do you want to be carving out a better way for you and your family? A fulfilling life where you can access the joy and freedom you deserve- all while being the mum you always dreamed of being. I've not coached a single mum who told me “I have time and capacity now to invest in myself”. They’ve all been doing exactly what you’re doing - working hard in the home or outside of the home, taking care of their kids and all the other responsibilities. They were just tired of waiting for a time when it would feel right to prioritise themselves. There is no “perfect” time. There’s just time and what you do with it.
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Why do you require 6 or 12 session packages, rather than month on month?I used to offer one-off coaching sessions and shorter coaching packages, but I soon realised they weren’t quite what my clients needed for truly powerful transformations. Full disclosure: I would always recommend the more comprehensive package because it gives you ample time and dedicated space to work through challenges, build self-worth and confidence, and start building the life you want. However, I also recognise the importance of offering a more accessible package too. I view coaching as a partnership, where we embark on a journey together. I want you to have the space to integrate the ideas and changes from our sessions with support and accountability. Because change is never a smooth ride, you will need support when you encounter challenges. Whether you choose a 6 or 12 session package, each is designed to guide you towards transformation and help integrate your goals into your everyday life. You don't just learn how; you become it.
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I'm not sure I can invest in me right now, maybe I should wait?I've been where you are. A few years back, I knew I needed to make changes in my life that I could only make with the support of others that understood the complexity of life and motherhood, but I felt I couldn't justify the cost. So life carried on in the same way, and I slipped further away from myself. Eventually, I realised it was just another mindset shift and I couldn't afford not to for the sake of me, or my family. I invested in coaching for the first time, and my personal and professional life completely transformed. I have since learnt to enjoy investing in myself since the rewards have been ten fold for me and my loved ones. If this is the first time you've invested in yourself I am sure this feels quite daunting, or even uncomfortable. But I am not surprised- as women and mothers we are endlessly told and sold stories that a good mother is a completely selfless one. However, I would ask how is that narrative playing out for you now? As cliched as it sounds, there is never a truer statement said than a happy mum = a happy baby/child/family. It's time to put some focus and energy into you, the way you do for your family! Plus, we have payment plans available so you can slowly stretch out of your comfort zone, while still investing in yourself.